Breathing is a miraculous act. It is one
of the few things our body does automatically which we can also engage
voluntarily. If we don't think about it, we breathe. If
we so choose, we can decide when to breathe. Of course,
if you have ever tried, it is a good thing the body is there as back
up; try as you may, it is difficult to maintain awareness
on the breath.
Training awareness on the breath has very
powerful effects on the body and mind. It forms the basis for
a great many meditation and calming traditions. It also is the
foundation for the practice of mindfulness. When you are
aware of your in breath and out breath ("I am now breathing in; I
am now breathing out") you become aware of the present moment.
At
this moment you are breathing. At this moment, your living child
is breathing. The practice of mindful parenting deepens
your connection to your child.
Today, when you become aware
of your breathing (you may want to write yourself a note to remind
yourself to be aware), visualize your in breath filling your child's
lungs. Close your eyes and breathe slowly. Feel your chest
and belly expand -- open. Imagine your child's chest and belly
opening.
With this breath
I give my child
What she needs
Recite this verse and remind yourself that you
provide your child with what he or she needs (not necessarily what
your child wants). The practice of mindful parenting opens awareness
to understanding deeply your child's needs. As a parent, there
is no greater expression of love.
